Welcome to the club. It’s a club that no one wants to be a part of and memberships are non refundable. While no two memberships are the same, there are some parts that remain consistent.
Most people won’t understand. That’s okay. Some people will act like it’s not a big deal. It is. Don’t let anyone invalidate your feelings or tell you how to feel. This is your loss and you get to feel it however makes sense to you.
When you experience a loss, any loss, but especially one so monumental, at such a young age, it forces you to grow up in a way that most people never will. It may feel like your childhood was stolen from you.
When your friends complain about their brothers, you may smirk a little to yourself, because you know you would give everything to fight with your brother.
It is incredibly challenging to watch your parents lose a child. It will test your family in ways you never imagined. You may feel helpless. You may feel confused, you’re supposed to be the kid, but now you’re comforting your parents. Lean on each other.
People will tell you stories. Listen. Always listen. Those little moments help you keep them close.
As time passes, you may feel frustrated or sad or even angry as you begin to forget little things about them. It’s okay. You will never lose their memory completely.
When you start to enjoy things again, you may feel guilty. Ignore it. That guilt is the just the pain of your loss masquerading itself. You are allowed to have a happy, full life still. Do it for him, it’s what he would want.
It can be hard to listen to people talk about loss who have not experienced what you have, you may feel jealous even, that they don’t know your pain. That’s okay. Try to turn it into gratitude; gratitude that the people you love and care about don’t have to hurt the way that you do.
As someone who knew your brother, know that he loved you guys more than anything. He wanted you guys to feel loved unconditionally, all the time, and that kind of love never dies.
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